The Time When i say good bye

His name Neil Henry, I know him since 2011 I forgot exactly in what month, maybe about April, first time I know him on conversationexchange.com. I asked my friend Agus about the website can learn language then he tell me this site,  so..I registered to the site and there I found many people who want to learn Bahasa Indonesia and for that they teach English. then I send email to some of them and just wait for the result, first day past without any reply email from them, next day I got some email and said they want to teach me English, I reply it all, by the times, only one person who still keep in touch with me, his name Neil (41 years on 2011) from England. He send me email everyday and I think it’s good for me to practice my writing and English language. We become friend and talked each other story. He told me, he just broken off from his girlfriend, and its surprise me because his girlfriend from Indonesia, then as a good friend I just can advice him and to be patient. If that girl is good for him then God will let them meet again, this is what I was tell to him.

At the second month of we know each other, I felt he like me, I can saw from his email, he always say nice thing about me and he call me with nice word, but sometimes he refuse it  and he said it’s impossible for him to love me, there was a lot a reason like he is a white Christian and I am a Muslim,  also we life so far away so it’s impossible for close relationship. I myself also said the same thing, it’s impossible for me to love him because we are different, I am a Muslim and he is a Christian but we are still friend and email each other  every day and laugh, joke and said nice thing.

I don’t know when it was, we love each other and start this relationship, we become so close and he become my boyfriend, I can’t image how it happened but suddenly we love each other. But when we become a couple we had a lot of fight. a lot of reason for that, the main problem was jealous, I am so jealous for his ex girlfriend because sometimes he called me that name, and for me it was so hurt then we start argued and fight, we ever broken off for some day but because he said sorry for all of that then I forgive him, but it won’t take long, we fight again for the same reason, ex girlfriend (I just realize it now, he was so drunk that time, thank God he stop now because he almost die because of alcohol) his ex girl really make me insecure and want me to fight with him all day, we chat everyday and sometimes he phoned me. one day I asked him for Skype but he said he don’t have Skype connection, but I not trust him, I don’t know why that time he not want me to see his face. July 2012 that was the first time I saw him on Skype, I ever ask him about what he said before about he have no Skype and his reason was he fell shy himself because he was so drunk that time. What……………… ????? He is an alcoholic, then he tell me other thing, he is an alcoholic, and he ever said he have double degree and now he said the thrust.  I just silent at that time, god, he lied to me but why?????? I try to talk to myself and to accept this about my boyfriend, I told him to stop alcohol and he promise me to stop, we less arguing since we seen each other on Skype, my thought, he love me each day and try to forgot his ex girlfriend and I can accept this, I know it’s not easy to forget someone we love, we need time, but as his girlfriend of course I am so jealous but I pray god to help me, my boyfriend always said I am bad temper and like to angry all the time, “ don’t u understand that I am so jealous”

He always promise me to came meet me and marry but he always broke that promise, this also make us argued and again he said I am bad temper and he shout at me and swear.  He said he really one to meet me then I tried to work at factory to have money for travel, in the factory he have some Muslim friend and he said he interest to learn about Islam, then his friend suggest him to go to mosque in Banbury and meet imam so he can learn about Islam and convert if he want, I not force him to convert to Muslim and I know he want convert because of me but I hope by the time he will learn more and more about Islam,  then he came to the mosque and meet Imam and convert to Islam, December 2012 he text me and said” Alhamdulillah honey I am a Muslim now and I felt like I have a new life” Alhamdulillah because he is interest about Islam, and I was so happy Alhamdulillah.

He got scholarship with Celta for teaching English, but I don’t know what was his reason he not take the course, sounding like family problem but I not sure and I thing he start alcohol again because I can see when we talk on Skype he like drink alcohol also when he talked on phone he was so different, oh God I think he start alcohol again on 2013 earlier, I don’t know what was his reason because he not tell me, I hate him that time and we start argued again but now because of alcohol not ex girl. he keep promise me every day to stop alcohol but again he get drunk and he drink in front of me on Skype, I got so angry and said broken off , he phone me to say sorry but I won’t care that, I just want broken off then he promise again to stop and I forgive him, one day at the end of June I saw something  different with his eyes, so yellow I am so worried but he still drink, and I said to him if he still drink tomorrow it mean our relationship will end and he promise to stop it, but next day I saw he still drink and I got so really angry and delete his face book and relationship end.

After this argued I never hear from him, yes of course I am angry to him and want broken off but when I not hear from him I got worry, I tried to phone him but he not pick my phone, emailed him but he not reply, I am so worried if something bad happen to him, after 3 weeks not hear from him, I asked his sister but his sister said we don’t have hear from him, he is okay because if something bad happened, as a family we will know that, but I am not satisfied with this then I remember he ever forward me email from his imam, I tried to find Zahid email, after I have it then I send email to Zahid and tell him about not hear from Neil for 3 weeks and I am worried if something bad happen and I hope you can see him, Zahid said yes and he will see him tomorrow.

Next day, I got email from Zahid and he said Neil is in hospital because he got problem with his liver, what………!!!! oh I felt so bad because last we talked and I broke this relationship, what should I do??? then I email his sister and said that Neil is in hospital because he got liver problem. His sister so worried about this news then she plan to visit him in hospital.

I was so sad because my boyfriend is in hospital, I don’t know what to do, if I have a lot of money I will fly there, his sister beg to me to came to England, everybody thought he will not have long life and his sister want me to come and visit him because it’s what he hope. Zahid help me so much, he come twice a week to hospital to see Neil and support him, and in that way I can communicate with Neil because Zahid always phone me when he is in hospital.

I asked everyone to pray for Neil, and Zahid also suggested me  to ask imam here in my place to pray for Neil,  my little brother is a saint man for me, I really respect him because he consent to learn Islam then I asked my little brother  to pray for Neil and he did.

Life is like a miracle for the one who trust GOD and I believe GOD listen all our prayer, after being in hospital for  months (July – December 2013) then Neil back home and now he just have some medicine for his health. Me, always pray for him all the time, no more argue for now, I am still bad temper sometimes but Neil always wise and never angry to me.

I love him more then he know and my wish is to see him this June, I don’t care what is he look like, I just want his happiness because he deserve to be happy. He booked ticket  already at June 10, 2014, we both so excited to meet each other because we love each other so much. We always talked every day, sometimes I not text him and he always tried to annoying me and laugh when I got angry (not real angry just act J ) how can I angry to my love??? he text me all the times like this “text me, text abang, tell Zahid to phone me” I always said to him “ why don’t you phone him, why I should text him?” then he said “I don’t have his number” again I gave him Zahid number but in the same day he text me again to text Zahid (if I know this is a sign he will leave  me, of course I will text zahid L ). One day before, he text me said he felt little bit ill, then I said to him to take rest and talk to God, he did and he start packing. Next day, I went to Aceh Jaya, usually he will text me all the time but those day I don’t got any text for him and in the afternoon I got text from his sister and said Neil pass away, my heart stop working, it’s that true??? I can’t believe this we will meet in 6 days.  I can’t stop crying because God change this feeling so fast from happy to sad, very sad because I lost someone I really loveL.

Honey, our dream to meet is not happened but I am happy when I remember how you was so happy to meet me, you are my rock and you always mine, thank for this love because it make me strong, there is a lot of word to tell about you.

 Honey I do miss you so much but what I can do, everyone will dead just wait the time for that.

( 4 june 2014)

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Change the Stigma of Disaster in Community

I visited random community who affected by tsunami in Aceh – Indonesia 10 years after, I asked them several question related to supported by NGO about their livelihood and other aspect. One question that interesting is what do you feel about that tsunami and their answer amazed me. 

They said its tsunami came from God because God were angry for us with our mistaken so God given that to clean people who make mistake. Some of them are an educated people but still answer like this. I can see after 10 years of tsunami, the stigma is doesn’t change. People just forgot about it and face the daily routine as usual. If the stigma doesn’t change it’s not good for next generation because the youth will forget about it and when disaster happen again its can be a lot of victim and suffering. 

After tsunami in Aceh there is several disaster in Indonesia like tsunami in Mentawai, Tsunami in Pangandaran, volcanoes, earth quake in Lombok and the last was tsunami in Sulawesi. For all of this disaster this is still a lot of victim and destroys many building and livelihood, its look like there is no lesson learns there.

Based from all of that, I can say the big victim came from community and sometimes that place is isolate from other and difficult to help them on the first week after disaster and they cannot help them self from the suffering, because of lack knowledge and capacities. 

The idea to solve this problem is to make community understand and have knowledge about disaster itself because after they have knowledge they will know what to do 6 days post disaster before other aid came.

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How To Deal With Jealousy

Jealousy is one of human characteristist, everyone feel jealous, for simpe example in daily life, when you see friend success then you will feel jealous, when your friend buy thing then you will fell jealous, some jealousy is good dan some is bad, depend on how you manage it, like when you see your friend success then you also try to be like them in positive way, because jealousy is part of human characteristics, here are some tips for you how to dealing with your jealousy.

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Freedom for Jakub Fabian Skrzypski

Jakub Fabian Skrzypski is one of my friend from Poland, I known him since 2011 through a website to host people when they travel to your country. we can host them or just meet up for sharing culture, learn language etc. I love this website because even I don't travel abroad frequently but I learn culture and language to the right person. I even hosted more then 10 persons in my house from different country like America, Poland, Germany, British, Malaysia and Rusia. All of them showed good attitude, polite and good friend. 

From all of them, Jakub is special, even we known each other since 2011 but we still have good communication till now, he love to learn language, he can speak Indonesia, Java and bit Aceh ( my language). He keep contacting me whenever he travel around Indonesia, even just asked me "Pue Haba" (how are you). He like to discuss with me about humanitarian issued as he known I am working for humanitarian organization. 

We talked about conflict in Aceh, he asked me a lot and sometimes I cant answer it and when I am stack with his curiosity or even bored then I asked him " why do you asked me about this and why do you want to know about conflict in Aceh?. He said "I want to compare between Papua and Aceh or other place I have visited about conflict and why that happened" Then I asked him again " what are you doing in Papua, he said" Just jalan - jalan (traveling) visiting remote villages to see the true Papua.

I still remembered his question about to chose destination to travel" would you tell me a bit, how did you make the choice of place to visit and how did you like it" when I told him I want to visit India next year. I explain my reason:

I explain how is the idea to visit India then I told him the most important for me while travel is to meet people  and sharing about thing, sharing smile and story this is the best part. I like the process of every moment, I like when I have to carry my heavy bag and walk fast. most of that to re charge mind to be fresh.

Then Jacob said " I have been doing similar things, with similar idea".

Our last communication was on August 2018,  he send me several picture of book about Aceh and asked me who is the people on the picture. I suggest him to visiting Aceh but due to his short money he has, so he cannot visiting Aceh right now. he visited Aceh on December 2015.

Then after that date I never hear from him anymore, and I almost forget him because of my work then I remember him  suddenly on September 14, 2018. Why he never inform me what happening, I known he is in Papua still because he told me he was in Sentani Jayapura. I text him on his what apps and he never read it. I felt worried then I tried to search on google "turis polandia di papua" (Polish in Papua) what make me shock is he as in prison in Jayapura now. He was arrested in Wamena in late August 2018 on suspicion of being a journalist. Police allege Jakob met with members of an armed pro-independence Papuan group, and was involved in an ammunition deal. To see someone picture with gun on on his social media is not evidence to accused that person belong to separatist 

I am not his supporter, I am just his friend who communicated with him since 2011 and i feel there is a mistake to put him in jail, because:

1. He is just a tourist not a journalist 
2. He just traveling, taking picture and talking to people, as he told me he just "jalan - jalan" (traveling) visiting remote village and to see the true Papua and on his this visit (maybe) he have met with OPM people and I don't think he was joint the separatist. 
3. He love to learn about culture and language so i think this is nothing wrong to meet with thus people to satisfied his own curiosity. That wrong because that is PAPUA. 
4. He travel with short money so how he can support ammunition to them ( that is not reasonable) - I dont know maybe police have their own reason for this 

So for humanitarian reason I hope police to be wiser to Jakob so he will have his right to be free from jail and back to Poland to meet his friend and family.

FREEDOM FOR JACOB SKRZYPSKI

Jacob - source media online 

For more information you can read on this:
http://savejakub.blogspot.com/2018/10/free-jakub-please.html

https://www.radionz.co.nz/international/pacific-news/366106/call-for-release-of-papuan-man-and-polish-citizen-charged-with-treason

https://www.thestar.com.my/news/world/2018/08/30/indonesia-detains-suspected-polish-journalist-in-papua/

https://www.vice.com/id_id/article/zm5nk9/turis-polandia-dituduh-bantu-makar-di-papua-padahal-terindikasi-dia-cuma-wisata-ekstrem

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The Journey of Two Polish Girl in Aceh, Indonesia

Tamara and Goha at floating boat Banda Aceh

One of my hobby is to learn language, specially English language. At the beginning its difficult for me because limited friend to talk with in English also my accent is so Achenese,  even when I speak in Indonesian language my accent still so Achenese. while I was at school one of my lecture said to me like this "lage kameng eek ateuh batee" that time I was so sad I almost cried but then I looked into his eyes and my eyes said I will show you one day English language is not a problem anymore for me.
June 2012 I got an email from Goha a polish girl who studied Indonesin language in Jogjakarta. in that email she said she will travel Aceh with his friend Tamara. that was a good news for me and I accepted them in my house ( i hosted them) there is two reason: 1. I want to promote Aceh to foreign people; 2. This is a good way to learn language direct with native. We change each other phone number. Then the story begin:

One day I got text from Goha and she said they was on their way to Aceh. That I though they used flight that why I reply" If you were at airport don't forget to text me back" I did't get any reply back. even it was change to next day. I thought why they did't reply me or maybe they canceled their plan to Aceh. so I called Goha to make sure myself. Did you travel to Aceh and she said they were on their way to Aceh, not on flight? no we didn't because we used hitchhike. ehmmmmm miscommunication lol. They just arrived in Medan and on my thought they will reach Banda Aceh at 8 pm.

It was 8 pm but they didn't contact me yet, I was so scare maybe something happened to them so I texted Goha and she said they reached Lhokseumawe, ehm I felt save Alhamdulillah. From Lhokseumawe to Banda Aceh about 5 house so they will arrive in Banda Aceh around 1 am (midnight). Well I have time to rest for awhile. I told them I will waiting them at Rex Peunayong, then i felt sleep. I wake up at 2 am but I dont get any news from the girl. It was 2 am and me going out ? Oh my god,how I can go out at 2 am to main town. Suddenly I got text from Goha and she said they are to reach Peunayong soon at 3 am. This really horrible plan and miscommunication among us. I have to find way. Then I remember a friend of mine, his name Agung and hopefully he didn't sleep yet. Lucky me Agung still awake and I beg his hel p to accompany me to Peunayong to pick up Goha. We both went to peunayong at 3 am and we didn't find anyone there. Suddenly a car stop there and there were 2 Polish girl. Thank God. finally. .... They looked tired with 2 huge backpack. I said thank to driver and finally we were going to my home with motorbike. I reached home around 4 am, felt so sleepy. Time to sleep for a better energy tomorrow around Banda Aceh.

Next morning, we planed to make itinerary while there were in Aceh, because they just spent a day in Banda Aceh so I had to make it good so they can known Banda Aceh. So here was the itinerary for them: Aceh Museum; Tsunami Museum, Great Mosque, Mass Grave, Floating Boat, Boat on the roof top of the house and Lhoknga beach.

The first place we visited was  rumoh Aceh (Aceh traditional house), they were very interested. They were ask many questions which I could answer lol. Then we went to tsunami museum, there we watched documentaries movie of the tsunami  and look around, then we walked to coffee show near by the museum in Back Jade cafe while that I had change to learn a little Poland language which is I forgot all now. its 1:00 pm, meaning that I have to do Zuhr prayer, then we went to great mosque (Mesjid Baiturrahman). They have provided the hijab because i told them if you came to Aceh you have to wear not open clothes and just bring hijab and they respected the role, when we arrived to the mosque I helped them to put hijab. A secury guard came to us and asked me they are muslim or non - muslim, I said no the He remain me to not allowed then enter inside the mosque because non muslim not allow enter the mosque, they said yeah we just look around while you were prayer. Then I took ablution and prayer. After praying I heard there was a little noise, Oh God...... Goha and Tamara entered mosque and the guard so anger to me. I just finished my prayer ans suddenly he was so angry to me because that two girl entered mosque. Of course I told them to not entered to mosque but they were very impressed with the mosque which vilanny made them inside. I bag sorry to guard and he not should angry at me because i have reminded them to not enter but they themselves entered the mosque. I felt like so annoying with this guard guy huh.

I took ablution and prayer, after praying I heard there was a little noise, O Allah, they were both in the mosque and of course I was the target of the guards' anger, I reminded them not to enter but they were very impressed with the mosque, which finally made they go inside. I'm sorry and annoyed at the security guard why should he be angry with me? I have reminded them not to enter but they themselves entered.

Coming out from the yard of the Baiturrahman, me, Agung, Goha and Tamara laughed badly for our silliness and because of I was the target of the security guard's anger. I asked them why they entered the mosque they said they were interesting and just looking around and while in Turkey there were allow to enter the mosque. They said why the guard got so anger to me not to them. We walked while talk and laugh.

coming out of the courtyard of the mosque, the four of us laughed badly at the silliness and I was the target of the security guard's anger, I asked why they entered the mosque even though I reminded them, they said they wanted to see - see in the mosque and the security guard should not be angry - angry with you because you reminded us, we walked again towards the museum laughing and telling stories.

They said Aceh people is good and friendly and they were no lying, before they visited Aceh some of their friend were reminded and banned them to Aceh because people there was rude and there was an Islamic Sharia but they proved that Aceh was a safe and friendly place to visit. Even they never hears of any boys whistling when they pass, not like other places in Indonesia they have visited, many guys whistling with no respect ( this is their idea not me, please no offended.

Time was 4 pm and they continue their journey to Sabang, and for the places that have not beeb visited will be visited after return from Sabang. I drove them to port and they boarded with fast ferry to Sabang.

The moral from this story is:

1. Respect other people 
2. Make a new friend is make your life more colorful 
3. my English language is not good but I am trying to write it in English, correct me if you know there is some mistake ( i know there is  a lot)
4. You will not change yourself when you respect other people's culture

Note: I ever write this in my other blog but in bahasa Indonesia and I was delete that blog 

Kendari, 18 Oct 2018

Missing Aceh badly 

Love

Zaza

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Tip Perjalanan Ala Backpackeran

Masing - masing kita punya definisi sendiri terkait dengan apa itu backpacker, kalau menurut saya sendiri backpacker itu adalah melakukan perjalanan dengan biaya yang murah, bersifat mandiri dan membawa barang yang ringan dak tidak terlalu banyak, karena bersifat mandiri sehingga bisa mengatur diri sendiri, apakah mau leha - leha atau melanjutkan perjalanan ketempat lain sesuka hati tanpa harus tergantung kepada orang lain atau travel agent, memang setiap perjalanan itu ada kelebihan dan kekurangan dan saya tidak mengatakan perjalanan dengan backpakeran itu lebih baik, jadi itu tergantung kita masing - masing, tapi kalau saya sendiri lebih memilih backpakeran jadi bisa menikmati me time yang lebih baik.

So.... Sudah bisa dipahamikan? bahwa backpacker itu bukan semata - mata karena biaya yang minim, tidak mandi dan terus berjalan kaki. Backpacker itu adalah Me Time, jadi kamu bisa sesukamu membuat perencanaan perjalanan terhadap dirimu sendiri. Ini hanya salah satu metode perjalanan dalam menghabiskan waktu liburan dan menyenangkan dan menenangkan diri dalam mencari jati diri dan merefresh kembali pikiran yang sudah terkotak kotak.

Prinsipnya seorang backpacker itu membawa barang sesedikit mungkin, mendidik diri sendiri dengan menguji kesabaran dan iman (apa hubungan yak? haha) dan perjalanan secara murah.

Menariknya lagi, perjalanan secara backpacker ini kita memegang kendali penuh terhadap jadwal perjalananya, bisa menikmati sepuasnya tanpa ada batasan waktu, semuanya bebas tidak ada yang mengatur. Seorang backpacker harus menghormati budaya dimana dia pergi, bersifat sopan santun, bertutur bahasa dengan sopan, mengenakan busana yang sopan dan tidak berdandan yang berlebihan dan lebih bagus lagi berbaur dan tinggal dengan masyarakat setempat dan menghormati budaya mereka sehingga bisa diterima hidup berdampingan dengan mereka. Inilah yang membedakan backpacker dengan wisatawan biasa, nilai pendidikan dan pengalaman, bagaimana seorang backpacker melakukan perjalanan secara mandiri dimulai dari perencanaan dengan mencari informasi penelitian yang mendalam tentang tempat yang ingin dikunjugi baik itu objek wisatanya, penginapan, budaya, bahasa, kondisi sosial dan bersenang-senang.

Ada beberapa tips yang perlu diketahui  sebelum melakukan perjalanan ala backpackeran, seperti:

1. Carilah informasi sebanyak mungkin tentang tempat yang akan dikunjungi 
2. Bawa barang yang diperlukan dan sebisa mungkin yang ringan 
3. Pastikan penginapanya selama ditempat tujuan, bisa dipastikan jauh - jauh hari, kan banyak aplikasi yang bisa di cek.
4. Menjadwalkan perjalanan sedetail mungkin.
5. Catat semua dokumen yang perlu dibawa
6. Hubungi kenalan atau cari kenalan di lokasi tujuan perjalanan

Tips ini sangat berguna untuk diterapkan, tapi.... pengalaman backpacker saya amburadul ketika melakukan backpacking ke India, dan berikut ini akan saya share.

Jadi perjalan ke India itu sudah saya beli tiket jauh - jauh hari, biasalah berburu tiket murah, namun saya belum bisa pastikan akan pergi atau tidak karena teman saya juga belum pasti akan berangkat juga dikarenakan kita sibuk dengan kegiatan masing - masing, singkat kata tgl 6 April 2017 baru kita pastikan berangkat karena dia baru mendapat izin dari kantornya dan pada tanggal itu juga saya sedang ada tugas menfasilitasi keluar daerah, karena keberangkatan kita itu pada tanggal 8 April 2017 sehingga dengan sangat buru - buru kita kembali ke Kota saya dari tempat tugas dan dia dari tempat kantornya berada, persiapan kita waktu itu hanya tiket, visa dan itenary secara umum yang saya siapkan. Sampai di rumah saya langsung packing hanya beberapa baju yang kira - kira diperluakan untuk 14 hari perjalanan, dengan bermocalkan sebuah ransel akhirnya saya siap untuk backpackeran, Banda Aceh ke Kuala lumpur lolos dan... petaka terjadi dari bandara KL ke India ternyata saya kelebihan barang, lebih dari 7 kg yang itu artinya saya harus beli bagasi (tips saya no 2 gagal total) tas saya saja sudah berat belum lagi ditambah isinya.

Perjalanan aman dan sampai di India dengan selamat, karena tidak ada kenalan di India, maka pendekatan di bandara/ ruang tunggu sangat diperlukan haha. Terlihat ada seorang lelaki Kashmiri yang gandeng sedang berdiri diruang tunggu, teman saya langsung mendekatinya dan bertanya - tanya tentang Kasmir, memang nasib lagi baik, tidak hanya ganteng tapi pemuda tersebut (Omer) sangat baik dan sangat membantu kita, kita sama - sama dari bandara dan dia menanggung sebagian biaya angkutan dan yang asiknya lagi dia mengundang kita dinner bareng di malam terakhir kami di Kashmir, tips nomer 6 berhasil kami terapkan bahkan di Jaipur juga berhasil metode ini.

Itenary saya ada beberapa yang berubah,a da tempat yang sudah direncanakan tidak berhasil dikunjungi seperti Amritsar tapi ada tempat yang tidak direncanakan berhasil saya lalui dengan sempurna, jatuh bangun di salju tapi tidak dibantu malah ditertawakan oleh teman saya, saya sendiri perempuan tidak sanggup mengimbangi 4 lelaki gagah yang langkahnya sangat lebar (teman saya, 2 British - menginap di penginapan yang sama dan guide Kasmiri). Ada hal yang membuat teman saya kesal itu saya selalu lupa bawa catatan itenary ketika kita jalan, selalu tinggal dipenginapan haha. Alhasil jadwal sudah saya detailkan tapi masih saja berantakan, dibalik itu Me Time saya sangat dapat, berteman dengan orang lokal, bercanda dengan penjual kahwa di pinggir jalan, dikejar - kejar pengemis dan bapak supir yang sangat baik. Kita mencari mobil sembarang saja dijalanan, tawar menawar kalau cocok kita ambil kalau tidak kita jalan lagi sampai akhirnya bertemu dengan si Bapak yang sangat baik dan harga sewa kendaraannya pun sangat murah untuk kami.

Perjalanan ke India memang sangat berkesan dengan cerita cerita lucu bertemu dan berkenalan dengan penduduk lokal, bagian yang paling mengesankan adalah ketika Omar menebak usia saya 24 tahun wakakakakaka. Cerita tentang Omar sudah saya tulis di blog ini.

Travelinglah sehingga engkau akan tau bagaimana sebenarnya kebenaran dari sebuah kehidupan, tantangan dan belajar dari banyak orang tentang apa sebenarnya yang kita cari dari hidup ini, uang? ketenaran? kemewahan? atau ketenangan dan keikhlasan.

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The Traditional House of Aceh - Indonesia

Aceh house take by Giyome

Rumoh Aceh (the house of Aceh) is the most recommended place to visit while you are in Banda Aceh. The location is closed to governor's house (meuligoe). While you entered the yard, you will feel the soul of Aceh very strong from engraving and the color are dominated namely consisting of red, yellow and black, with cost of s ticket only 750 IDR for local and 1000 IDR for foreign (I dont know the present proce) you be able to see the atmosphere inside Rumoh Aceh (Aceh's House)

After you get the ticket you are welcome to came inside the house, the rule which must be obeyed were opening sandal and shoes when entering a house of Aceh. After up the stairs then you will see the photographs of some warriors from Aceh such as Sulthan Iskandar Muda, Teuku Umar, Cut Nyak Dhien and Cut Mutia.

Aceh traditional house divide into three room with different uses, the first room we called “seuramo keu”  or front desk that serves as the parlor and stretched wide along home, used to welcome guests, religion activities and as a deliberation. Neatly arranged with small met, called “tika duek” used by guests to sit or for deliberation.

Seramo keu and kita duk, pic take by Emil

Seramo Keu taken by Giyome

Next room is Seuramo Teungoh (central veranda) or called “rambat”. Specially used for householder and relatives or if a man for those who familiar with the whole family. A central space consisting of a  bridal room, Aceh’s wedding, cabinet containing cutlery made foreign made, equipment for ceremonial and equipment for worship.

in between taken by giyome

Seramo teungeh

One room left namely “seuramo likot” or called back veranda. This room is used as a special family and also for a kitchen as a room laid at the eastern end in this room because when praying family members then there will be distorted by activity in the kitchen. All family members gathered in this room and it can be as a do various activities like parenting and daily activities such as sewing and mat weave. So in this room we also can see the cupboard containing kitchen utensils and mat that can ready used when needed.

Seramo likot with my students taken by mr krist

By knowing the customs of Aceh may make us  love our own culture become deeper and we can show the world that Aceh is a land with a rich culture and make other came and learn then we will be very proud to say” I am an Acehnese am I am proud of  born in Aceh.  

on the stair with my student taken by Mr krist

Spread a nice word about your place so people can know and learn about your culture, you are as local people know better then other.

Keep smiling to the world

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And now there is an other issue what make them want to know about Aceh, it called " syariat islam" Islamic special role in Aceh. and because of this i faced similar question from different bule and sometimes make me confuse to answer that because I don't have good knowledge about it. In other hand I want to be a good agent of Aceh people so I have to answer with good statement to make them know more about Aceh and love Aceh. So this is a hard work actually but I have to, because many people have misunderstanding about Aceh even for Indonesian who never came to Aceh yet. 

These questions are:

1#As a woman do you feel they force you to cover your head ?

I cover my head since I was 13 year old that time I was at Junior High School not because i studied at islamic school but my parent teach me how to act like a muslim, they told me to cover this because that is mention in our holy book "Al-Quran" Allah said to our prophet Muhammad to tell to all sister in islam to cover their body and head, and this really useful for me because man will respect and act good to me. I don't say who not wear hijab is bad, because what make people bad and good is they attitude, if they have good attitude it mean they are good. For woman who choose to cover their head is come from her heart not because government made this Islamic law, Islamic law is good but remember, what all you do is because of you really want to do and not force by sharia,  when you do it by your self then you will peace in side, I don't say you can not to cover your head but follow your heart is better, do your best and God will do the rest

2#What do you think about Islamic role?
I think is Islamic role is good as long as it base on the rule from Al Quran, Hadith and Islamic leader, its become not good if someone who make this rule didn't understand about this rule, let an Islamic leader think about this, I don't said government don't good with this but when encourage the right people in this then all will be better. The right man in the right place

3#Why you cannot host man in your house?
This also another question to me from foreigner, its difficult for me to explain sometimes because western and eastern have different culture, the rule of the place where I life here is not allow a strange man to stay with woman because I don't life with parent here. That will be fine if I stay with parent (more answer you can ask to my personal email zatin.abdullah@gmail.com

4#Why you cannot marry with man who have different believe with you?
Another difficult question, will fine a good resource for this and we can discuss more for :)

5# Do you ever host a foreigners who are not nice to you?
My motto is good people will meet good people so, as long as you are good to other then other people will also good to you, never worried about negative think because there is God always with you.

This is some question to me from my friend, If you have any comment or you want to discuss this issue let find me on my email zatin.abdullah@gmail .com or through my facebook zatin Abdullah zatine_ab@yahoo.com

Thank you and happy life :)
 

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